Sex

Bring it on: Sex series
"I want sex"
---- a sister, to her fiance.
"When he puts his pillow between his legs and
refused to stand when I told him I was leaving after
a visit, I knew there was an erection."
------ a pastor's wife, speaking on her experience
during courtship.
In or out of courtship, we are highly inflammable.
The hush and smooth voice impresses her. Choice
of words and smiles with charm collapses her
defence. The personality and handsomeness gives
her butterflies.
Her waist twisting skills palpitates his heart. The
straight legs causes libido. Her curves commands
erection. This is the reality we are faced with as
young Christians.
Read Paul's letter to Timothy, a young pastor: 1
Timothy 5:2 "The elder women as mothers; the
younger as sisters, with all purity." He told him how
he should treat others. "With all purity" is added to
the way he should treat "younger women." Probably
Paul knew that Timothy wasn't impotent. He had
flesh and blood in him.
We will never rule out the place of prayers and bible
study if we must manage sexual desires and
unexpected erection that leads to avoidable satanic
commotion.
If he's already begging you for sex my sister, know
that he has already burnt to ashes in his heart. He
only seeks where to dissipate the energy.
Knowingly or otherwise, you've finished him! You
either help him to defile you both, or help him stay
pure. That's when you must readjust visits. If not,
the abominable is inevitable! Penetration will score
abomination!
Tell him "I love you. I love it too, but it's not yet
time." Then tell him
you'll speak more on phone until he can control the
drive. If however you too are already down in your
heart, may God help you. I will not say "avoid each
other." No. Yet I'll still say there are times you
must flee from each other. This isn't because you
don't love one another, but because you love God.
You must adjust visits, pray for one another and
discuss it to stay pure. For a single male or female
christian to demand for sex, he/she must have
resigned to disobedience in the heart. This is why
you both must give yourselves ultimatums. Discuss
it freely.
Deep kissing, tight hugging, caressing, etc have
been debated. I'll never encourage it. Your
consciences will be left soiled. I don't know the
healthy man that'll do those without erection. I don't
know the erection that doesn't encourage impure
thought. Even if you claim you're strong and it
leaves no guilt in you, what about the other person?
You must have left some spot on his/her garment.
You're only in a hurry to do what you both will
eventually overdo. When challenges of building a
home stares you in the face, you may forget sex for
a week. When secular assignments reduce
moments of pleasure, your wife will ask and you'll
say "dear please I must sleep or die." Control your
flesh by feeding your spirit now! Matthew 26:41
"Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation:
the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak."
Avoid videos that display naked ladies' physical
endowments. Stop staring at your fiancees' shapely
chest. It's precarious! Look away from her
wonderfully structured backside! Ah! That thing is
the grave in which many great men have been
buried. It's ruling the present world. You're giving
PMS to the fire that'll burn you! When you're
married, it'll become your DSTV. It'll become your
multi-choice. Wait till then.
"Missionary style", "emissary style", "dog style",
scissors style", etc in marriage will be at your call
and beckon. Will you die if you don't sin now?
The sinfulness or otherwise of these "styles" in
marriage have been funnily debated. Ill discuss it
too. Let's keep it Short for now. God bless you.
To be continued....